Ok, what do you think about this?

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Registered: 05-28-2007
Ok, what do you think about this?
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 8:39pm
The guy I've been dating for 8 months has told me that he wants some "space". So, ok..no problem. I go a few days and then he texts me out of the blue. Do I respond to the texts or wait until he really calls me? It's been a week since he's told me he wanted space and needs some time to himself. I have called him twice, but I won't again. I need him to call and do the chasing for once. It's like he's afraid to call me.
I hate it when he just texts me. Makes me want to have them turned off so he will have to call me..lol Anyway, what would you do?

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 8:52pm

I think I'd probably respond with something like, "nice to hear from you...please call me if you're ready to be back in contact." That way, you're being receptive to his contact, but also letting him know that texting isn't doing it for you!

If he continues to text rather than call after you send that, *then* I'd ignore the texts.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 10:19pm

It's quite possible he just wants to slow down the tempo somewhat, which is actually more fine than what many women seem to believe. I say that because it's pretty rare when a woman wants "space." I've asked for it before though, when a guy became too needy or wanted more of my time than I could give. I felt like a heel for just wantign to do my normal activities, like just working out, and this one guy was just always wanting to keep in touch, keep tabs, keep calling, ask to spend time together. It was a bit much.

I'd say to your boyfriend something along the lines of what Sheri's said, which is "Call me so we can talk." I wouldn't respond to any more texts than just that. Then when he does call, AGREE with him about the space. Watch his head spin for the entertainment value of it, first of all, because he definitely won't be expecting that, and then proceed to do more things on your own and with your friends. It's possible you two were spending just a little more time together than what might be good for the long-term health of your relationship? Were you two starting to lose yourselves and your individual personalities in the relationship?

Repeat after me: "Space is good. It allows room to move, room to breathe, it's relationship air."

Say that each time you feel anxious, it'll work. Read the several articles posted in the resources section at the bottom of the board on space and breaks, and why guys lose interest.

Good luck,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 2:26pm

Hi renee,


If this is an olive branch from him are you willing to meet him half way?




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