okay, i need advice...

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Registered: 08-05-2004
okay, i need advice...
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 8:37pm
My last post was that my H was packing and intended to leave last Sunday. Well here it is, Tuesday, and his crap is half packed and in the hallway. He is still here! I don’t get much information except that he is working on leaving asap. Everyday I am told he will be out of here tomorrow. It is incredibly stressful for me...I was geared up for H leaving and prepared myself as much as possible. The dog even looks stressed out.

H said that he wants to be friends and has gone out of his usual way to be nice, considerate, etc. More stress b/c that has not been him for a long time. It’s like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. What kills me is that b/c of his money problems (which will most likely become my money problems) he can not easily find an apartment, room, etc. If he had money & good credit I know that he would have told me to kiss his a** and left.

I have started to look for a lawyer, but this is an overwhelming task. There are at least 5 lawyers on every block in Houston. And I do not have any acquaintances that are divorced. Confused on where to start.

What the hell am I going to do? Throw all his crap out, or try to be understanding of his situation. But, all I have been doing for the better part of a decade is trying to understand his situation and help him. I don’t want to be a pushover any longer.

Comments / suggestions are much appreciated as I think I am losing my mind.

Jen

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 9:19pm
It was extremely hard when my husband and I separated. I know you said money is an issue, but is there any way you can get out of the house during this process? Like, take a week of vacation time, even if you're only staying at a friend's, or just stay with a friend for a bit while he is packing and getting his stuff out. I know, perhaps the bigger issue is that he's said he's leaving but hasn't actually gotten out yet, and I don't really have advice there, but I felt better being out of the house while he was packing/moving, maybe if you take a week he'll be gone when you get back.