Once a Cheater, ALways a cheater?

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Registered: 06-30-2011
Once a Cheater, ALways a cheater?
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 7:11pm

My boyfriend and I have been off and on for 6 years, We've each been in other serious relationships, and actually we got back together when he cheated on his last girlfriend with me. Well we have been dating for a half a year now and things are starting to become troublesome. When we first started dating he was texting this girl everyday all day and i found out about it. Not from him, but the girls friend. He confessed and said it would never happen again. But once again i am in the same spot today. I heard he was talking to her again, so i got a fake number acted like i was her and texted him. He was excited to talk to her by using !! and :) and i didnt let it get far, but just the fact that he texted her back really bugs me. He said that he does not talk to her and so does his friends, but when i went to ask her all she said was that we belong together. She never said that they didnt text. I dont know who to believe or what to do and i really need help

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 11:12am


Your question of once a cheater always a cheater is a tough one to answer with a simple yes or no.

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Registered: 07-02-2011
Sat, 07-02-2011 - 4:32am


i dont think that your boyfriend is reliable person who maybe leave it for sometime but cant leave it for forever because cheater always been cheater . just think that he come back to you after 6 year in this while he has other relation . just get out from this its not good for your future at all .


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 07-02-2011 - 2:24pm

So you got back together by having him cheat on his last girlfriend and even though you caught him cheating on you (or least breaking his promise never to contact this girl again) you are wondering what to do?

You know he cheats because you got him to do that in order to get back together.