Is one night enough reason to end it?
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Is one night enough reason to end it?
| Mon, 04-17-2006 - 5:45pm |
So here's the question: My boyfriend and I have been together and really good for about 3 months, and friends for a couple before that. A couple days ago at a party, he was incredibly drunk, and he pinned me against the wall and was kissing and grabbing me to the point I was crying for him to stop, and a guy I know had to physically pull him off of me. Needless to say I was really upset, and the next day he had no memory of anything that happened. I broke up with him, even though he started crying that he would do anything, including stopping drinking altogether (which is a big deal for a college guy) and he's always been good on his promises. Nothing like this has ever happened before; he's the least violent guy I know. I still didn't take him back, but I'm wondering- was I too hasty? He offered to do anything and has been a great boyfriend up until this one terrible event he doesn't even remember.

well you did the right thing there my dear. alwaysss remember if they start doing that (physical abuse)no matter what it is!!! they will do it again and again.
actually this is just a easy way out for you. compare to my experience. well actually it was my first love (first of everything/for 2yrs). he just push me for some reason and i decided to end the relationship right that time. well up to now i never regret that and after we broke up he start dating some other girl. that girl she even call me and tell me that my ex actually her bf that time. he start physical abuse her also.
so as a friendly advised you already did the right thing so dont confused yourself. TRUST ME IF HE DID THAT TO YOU. HE WILL DO IT AGAIN AND AGAIN. IS THAT KINDA RELATIONSHIP DO YOU REALLY WANT? OFCOURSE NO RIGHT?
i'm a guy, and no matter how drunk i get, i know when i'm being too physical. what he did was wrong, period. the question becomes why, and whether you're okay with forgiving him for it. is he on steroids? is he going through a rough patch at home? has he ever hit someone before? i don't think you have to leave him over this, but kudos to you for standing your ground. talk it out, re-build trust, and continue on. everyone makes mistakes. it's the forgiveness that's hard. hang in there.