One week: No contact.

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Registered: 04-11-2008
One week: No contact.
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Mon, 04-28-2008 - 9:24am

Ok....so it has successfully been one week since my last slip up.
1 week ago today I was weak, missed him, called him and he later called me back drunk "I love you..." (blah blah) then the phone was cut off and he never called back.

7 days later and here I am. No contact since.

The past week has been rough at times. The mornings especially are difficult, because it's when you have to remember all over again upon waking up. I've had a few dreams about him (funny 'cuz I never dreamed about him when we were together).
Going to work is not too bad, the girls make me laugh...but work still reminds me of him because he'd wait for me there & pick me up all the time.
Early evenings, same thing...I wonder where he is, who he's with...

Otherwise I got out with friends and my appetite is back along with a few unwanted lbs.

Sometimes I'm sad and sometimes I'm pissed off.

One thing that plagues my brain is the wondering....who's he with, what's he doing, how can he love me so much for almost 2 years and now just not care....running over a few of the final quotes of his in my mind "regardless if we're together or not, you still were going to move here for your job"...."I won't be out celebrating, yah, I'm single"...."no there isn't anyone else"...."I just need time, I don't know, I'd tell you if I didn't want to be with you"....."well I might have dinner with friends that are girls"

Hmmm...men revolve around women, how can a man not be on a mission to be with a woman, i.e. either us or someone else. Ya know?

My best friend lives in his city, they have mutual friends, when I talk to her (if I'm feeling better) it brings me down. She'll say things to me like "all his friends know him, they know he wouldn't just leave you without something else up his sleeve"
Thanks.

Anyways, go see Forgetting Sarah Marshall....hilarious movie.
I left the movie in a great mood with friends, climbed into my car & had a flashback of him in his vehicle(long distance relationship, many times we were stuck with 2 cars) making faces at me at red lights...telling me he loves me....argh.

Life will go on...eventually.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 9:35pm

Ok I do the same thing with facebook and its been over 8 months. I dont know how to stop, and the wierd part is I ended it, I know its over and I dont want to get back together (even though he does) so WHY WHY WHY does it bother me enough to look. Then when I look it really upsets me...yet I dont want to get back?? I just dont know how to stop and I wish I could. Its like

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Registered: 09-28-2007
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 11:28pm

belated congratulations to you. time seems to go by so slowly, sometimes even backward, in the aftermath.


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Registered: 09-28-2007
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 11:34pm

it's easier to take it one day at a time.

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Registered: 03-24-2006
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 9:46am

I know its hard to break that cycle. I had a horrible breakup before the current one that I'm going through, and the girlfriend that he left me for had a Myspace, and she would always post how she loved him. It hurt horribly. But, I just had to stop. I made THAT my no contact. I focused on making it through each day not doing it. Even now, I've checked in on her now and again, and it still hurts a bit, so I find it best to just stay away. When you're tempted, do something else. Or, have a friend come overand block her page from being used and make it password protected, so you CANT access it.


You CAN do it, and as mean as this sounds, its a matter if you WANT to.

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Registered: 03-24-2006
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 9:48am

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I always used to defend MySpace, Facebook, etc. But, now, I see the problems with it. Most people will defend it as "Just a way to keep in touch with friends", but when it causes other people, and yourself pain, it becomes a problem. Much like alcohol; Sure, it's somehting nice to enjoy socially, but once it starts becoming a habit, that's where it starts.


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