online dating

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Registered: 09-09-2003
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Sat, 12-04-2004 - 9:17pm

I wanted to share this experience with you. It might help all those aching hearts on this board.
For 2 years I lived with my then boyfriend and for him
I did everything to make him feel better. Never judged his too many mistakes... gave him all my attention,time and money, helped him with his work and studies. I even spent sleepless nights with him when he had to stay up late studying. I was his assistant, his family and his love... then he never needed me so hence the breakup two weeks ago.

I was hurt and devastated as you can imagine. I felt like I lost my faith in all men. I tried to go out with other guys for a movie or a drink. But always felt miserable kuz I m not ready for dating.
I had a profile on a dating site so I went in and activated it. And since I ve been receiving like 5 messages a day from guys interested in me. Some even send me their phone numbers! I dont get to meet those guys as I told them I prefer to chat for few months before meeting in person. Some accepted and we just chat and email. It feels much better nad I feel I still have a hope in finding real love. So I suggest if you are broken-hearted to follow this rule. Just dont get too involved. take it for what it is!
Good luck
J.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: juliara2003
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 4:08pm
Thanks for sharing!! I'm glad this is helping you!!











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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 9:13pm

While I haven't posted a personal ad, I do talk to quite a few guys on Yahoo's IM.







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Registered: 12-05-2004
In reply to: juliara2003
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 10:36pm

I think every woman needs validation in one form or another. I just broke up with my fiance and even though I know that I am still in the grieving process and I am not ready to do the dating scene again but being on line as I am now is a good and healthy way to open yourself up to new friends and other possibilities. Just make sure that you do not jump into anything serious until you know for sure that you are completely over your ex. Be upfront with the new guys that you meet.If they stick around and respect your need to keep it slow, that is a good indication that you are meeting a quality man online that is worth your attention. Good luck!

Edited 12/5/2004 10:39 pm ET ET by jewellbabe2004




Edited 12/5/2004 10:40 pm ET ET by jewellbabe2004