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the other woman
| Fri, 05-04-2007 - 2:01am |
iv just broken up, finally ended my 2 year affair with a married man. i feel shattered, like a monster for what iv done. iv never spoken of it, the gulit has beaten me down to the lowest of lows. today is the first time iv spoke let alone admitted of it, i feel so alone that i can't share what im feeling with anyone because they will like im the most horrible person on the face of the planet.
it had to end, its killing me, but it had too. anyone advise on how to begin trying to forgive myself, claim my self respect and dignity back, to hear from anyone who has lived and made it through something like this, hell anyones opion would be much welcomed.

Good for you for finally getting out of that situation, it takes a lot of strength and personal integrity to realize things aren't right and to do somethign about it. It took some time, but you're there now.
First of all, don't hate yourself or continue to beat yourself up. True, what you've done wasn't right, but you've recognized that and ended it, and that needs to be what you focus on. Don't let anyone impose their own morals or judgments on you, you've ultimately done the right thing here.
To gain your dignity back, again, focus on the fact that YOU ended it, because you knew this wasn't right. I sincerely doubt you will allow yourself to get involved in a situation like this again, but that strength has to come from within you, and as time goes on and you see yourself act according to your own good values and standards, your dignity will coeme back to you, and so will your self-respect.
You may find some extra support on ths board: Ending an Affair
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlending
Good Luck,