OUCH!

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Registered: 02-03-2004
OUCH!
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Thu, 09-16-2004 - 3:15pm
I am writing again just to feel better I guess...I never thought pain could be this intense! I'm trying my damndest to forget about it, keeping busy, talking to people etc. But NOTHING takes the pain away NOTHING! It has been a month already, and it isn't getting any easier. How long does it take? I can't go on to much longer like this, I will either starve to death or die of sleep deprivation (or both). Can anyone please relate?? Can anyone who has been through this give me some words of comfort - PLEASE!

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Registered: 02-03-2004
In reply to: ddinkle
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 7:31pm
I cannot even begin to think about the good times yet, it makes me cry and cry! Or think of the times when he really loved me, I HATE it!! Do any of you sit and wonder what is going through their heads? Like does he miss me? Does he think of me? It also makes me crazy to think of the things I miss about him, his smell, his big hands (and various other body parts), the GREAT sex we had, his cooking (he was an amazing cook), his voice...UGH!!! To think that someday another women will get to experience him and it WON'T be me. WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!! See it even makes me sad to type this so I will shut up now.

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In reply to: ddinkle
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 12:41am
Hi dd

Ditto. On everything. I may write a lot of stuff about being strong, and moving on, but for me, it's a load of crap right now. Thinking about him being with someone else.....that does NOT put a smile on my face. definitly puts me in a very depressed mood. I just have to hope that I'll be able to deal with it when that day comes. And for right now, I bascially have to try to not think of him at all. It's those times when the thoughts sneak into my head without any warning, and all of a sudden I MISS him. And it hurts so very very bad.

To all you ladies out there, take care of yourselves this weekend. Do something extra special for yourself. I'm thinking of you all,

Karen

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Registered: 07-16-2003
In reply to: ddinkle
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 10:31am
I will echo Karen's resonse --- DITTO DITTO on everything you wrote. I will tell you that it does get better. I can still recall those things about him, but it no longer envokes the emotional and physical response that it used to. I used to remember when we were initmate and get the butterflies in my stomach. That doesn't happen anymore. I am starting to be able to step back and look at things with a much more logical eye. So hang in there. Keep journaling. I don't do that as often anymore. But every once in a while some thought about him pops in my head that won't go away, so I will write it down. It helps.

Lois

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: ddinkle
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 11:25pm
(((Hugs))) What your feeling is comepletely natural. There is no set time that you will suddenly feel better.....but one day it will happen. I'm sure he still thinks of you as well....you just can't turn all your feelings and memories off with a snap of your fingers...or else break-ups would be so much easier. I wish you all the best and feel free to post as often as you want...that's what we're here for.
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