Peaceful End

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Registered: 11-04-2004
Peaceful End
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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 11:54am
I am getting ready to end my relationship with my husband. We have two children together 5 and 2. We have been together for 5 years married and together for about 7 before that. I am looking for suggestions on how to end this peacefully. He has a tendency to be violent usually alot of yelling and screaming. He likes to break stuff and put holes in the wall. That is one of the reasons that I am leaving. Besides the fact that he is an acholic and a cheater. I just want to leave peacefully for the children sake they love their father. However we just do not get along. The only time we get along is when we are being intimate other than that we can't stand each other. He has told me that he wants to leave but stays because of the kids. I want to leave and plean on leaving soon. I have found a place and everything.
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Registered: 11-07-2004
In reply to: ihavedrama
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 3:54pm

if he is such an irrational man, u shuld try talking to him face to face in a public place, like a restaurant and explain the motives and ur decision.

Good luck

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Registered: 11-18-2004
In reply to: ihavedrama
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 5:54pm
Maybe you could have the children stay with a relative for a week or whatever while you get it taken care of. That way, although they'll still be dealing with the shock of the change, at least they won't have to see you two having it out! Also consider recruiting support from friends or your local women's crisis support center, if there is one. If you really think he might get violent, consider notifying the police as well. There's no sense in letting this turn into more of a tragedy than it needs to. <3
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: ihavedrama
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 1:38pm

Definitely have the children out of the house with a family member.







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