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Pinning Badly
| Sun, 04-02-2006 - 5:59pm |
Hi everyone,
Im am pinning so badly over what I dont have anymore. I cant believe that he just left. That he could walk away , i keep hoping hell miss me and call but its been 12 days now and nothing. When I think that he's not going to call i get the urge to call him and tell him he's wrong that we are perfect together. We were so perfect together, everyone was so shocked to hear we broke up. And ppl keep telling me if its meant to be, it will be. But im having such a hard time concrentrating and getting it out of my head. Its all I think about all the time, him. And I got back and forth loving him being mad loving him being mad. This is such and ugly feeling, i just want him back and everything to be back to normal again.!

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lamago...
3 Suggestions from PG:
1. Do not base your personal feelings on the words you hear from others....simply because THEY AREN'T LIVING YOUR LIFE! YOU ARE!
2. "Loving him being mad" sounds a little sick to me! Especially when most relationships are (in general) supposed to be HAPPY?
3. What you thought was "normal"---really wasn't! Oh sure...you were temporarily happy with the status quo? But everybody goes through changes...including yourself! You can "revisit the past" at high school reunions, by listening to old record albums or cds, by watching old movies, and by thumbing through photograph albums.
BUT what's happening now....is the chapter of your life that's unfolding. SO get a grip on it and LIVE IT!
Pining for the past will take you absolutely no-where!
Pianoguy
Thanks Piano guy,
What I meant was i go right now from loving him to hating him. Though most of time I still love him. I look at his pictures and they dont make me sad, they make me happy. Isnt that weird, its like I think were just on vacation and some day he'll come back. This must be a serious sign on denial. I feel like i pushed him away by being so needy. I would get upset if he didnt send me flowers at work for special days, and i'd get drunk and cry at his friends parties b/c we werent moving as fast as I wanted. I have so many freaking regrets, and I think if only I could change that we would work.
lamago...
CHANGE has to happen between 2 people....not just one!
PG thinks the words: CHANGE & COMPROMISE often get mixed up with one another?
Confusing...huh? !
Pianoguy
Oh I know!!!
My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago (well he did). But it wasn't until this past weekend, that I realized we really have to cut contact. It hasn't even been 5 days and I already want to call him. Good for you for making it to 12 days! That's almost 2 weeks, just stay strong and continue to do whatever it is you're doing. - You're an inspiration to me!
This is why I always advise that when you ask for no contact, you make it clear that if he changes his mind and wants to get back together then that is an exception to your request.
Did you do so when you asked him not to contact you? If so, sending an email with that information will set your mind at rest...you'll know that HE knows it's ok to contact you IF and only if he sincerely wants to work things out.
Sheri
You do have control, but it is over yourself. If you contact him, I can almost assure you it won't help the situation and will make you feel worse.
Even though you asked him not to contact you, he knows the door to communication is open. Telephones, e-mails and all still work. For whatever reason, he is choosing not to contact you right now. Whether he ever will is anybody's guess. The acceptance that we can only control ourselves is the key, and what is so hard for everyone, including myself. Focus on yourself. It's the only sane thing you can do now.
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