Please Help!!

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Please Help!!
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 11:37am

Hi All,


I new at posting on this board but I have been on IV awhile, I need some advise from someone who has been in a breakup,

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2005
In reply to: doodle772
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 11:52am
You just really need to be there for her. Understand that this is a tremendous amount of pain for her and that she will be very vulnerable. If she gets snotty or rude, understand she doesn't mean it. She absolutely has to say something to the guy. She just has to ask 'are you talking to another woman, do you have feelings for her?', it's as simple as that. Now I don't know what evidence you have to prove he really is doing this, but you can present that to him. If he truly loves her and cares about her, he will respect her concern. He might get really mad and think she is just making stuff up, that might be a sign of denial. If she feels she is not for sure he is doing something, then she needs to gather all the facts she can, but if she does have a gut instinct, she needs to go with it, they are most always right. This is a tough issue and will take some time. It depends on if she feels it is worth fighting for. In the end, things will be right. But just hang in there for her.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: doodle772
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 12:02pm

Melanie...

The only question PG can ask is:

"Would she be a happier lady without her partner?"

Irregardless of what others say to her face...or behind her back...the ultimate choice to break-up borders on HAPPINESS! Couples who stay together for any other reason are only fooling themselves.

Pianoguy

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Registered: 08-22-2005
In reply to: doodle772
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:12pm
When she asked him he didnot deny that he was talking to her, he did not tell her that he was talking to his daughter-in-law all hours of the night every night, and when she asked if he had feelings or was he gonna have an affair, he got very mad, to the point of telling her that she would just have to deal with it, because he wasn't gonna change it, and that he was going to continue to do this.