please help

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
please help
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Tue, 11-23-2004 - 7:39pm

Hi,

I wrote earlier this week about the horrible break up my bf and I had late saturday night. It included him saying that he's depressed, that he needs time to clear his head, talking about his severly dysfunctional family, saying he stopped feeling the way he used to about me and me becoming hysterical and throwing him out. Although our relationship was brief, a bit over 3 months, I've never fallen for a guy this hard before. We became very close, very quickly. Anyway we're over. So here's my problem. When he left me bawling on Saturday he didn't call/text/im to see how I was doing. When I calmed down a bit, I felt bad about things ending this way especially since he's feeling so crappy about other things. He's always online so I imed him last night saying that I didn't want things to end like this either.. no response. Today I imed him saying "hi?" (nothing) and then "i get it have a good thanksgiving." no response. nothing at all. Ok so my question is how bad does this make me look exactly... and secondly how do I keep from taking this really personally and seriously upsetting me. I can't help thinking he must've never cared about me at all...you guys are so awesome during this awful time thank you so much.
-so very sad

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: sonjahms
Tue, 11-23-2004 - 9:03pm
I'm sorry things ended this way. I think he probably cared but probably not as much as you did...as you said it was a brief relationship and you fell for him hard and fast. He's probably just trying to keep his distance so I'd just cut off all contact with him and try and keep busy and move on. If he wants to talk to you....he knows how to reach you. Good luck and keep us posted!!











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