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| Sun, 06-25-2006 - 4:14pm |
I'll make this short. Just wanted some unbiased opinions from some smart women. I began dating a toxic man on February 1. We broke up after 3 months because of my suspicions and his childish behavior. Well, I've pretty much given him the milk for free since then because my lust is too strong for me to bear. We have amazing chemistry. Anyhoo, here's the situation. We went out twice this week and had an amazing time. There is a particular woman that he sees on occasion and I've seen him out with her. She used to be a friend but I cut that off because I discovered she is a huge slut and I don't want to be involved. You know the old saying, "you are the company you keep." Anyway, I thought he was just using her for sex but last night as I was driving downtown to meet some friends for dinner I saw them together! At 8pm on Saturday night! He tells me that they are just friends. This girl is facing jail time because of a DUI and three driving under suspicion charges and has no job. She's got a killer body but her face is not the least bit cute. It has almost killed me having to think that he's taking the whore on an actual date. I know that he will call or text soon and I want to know how to respond to hurt him the way I hurt. Is no response best? My friends say to not answer the phone but if he texts just respond with, "I'm done. Please don't call. Thanks." Will this get to him? ughghghgh......I feel like I'm breaking down here! Any advice or stories on what y'all have done to men to "get to them" would be great! By the way, he really loves a challenge and can't stand the fact of not being able to have something he wants.
Thanks, ladies! (And gentlemen.)

Hi, Stoliesmom..
Please don't stoop to the level of trying to hurt this fellow because he inflicted pain on you. That makes you no better than him, and I think its important to us that we keep our dignity in times like this. You say he is 'toxic'... he is giving you a gift by leaving. Learn from the pain... you are worthy of someone who will treat you better...
Jim
My ex was also very toxic during the last month of our so-called relationship since he brought nothing to the table except good sex once in awhile. On top of being toxic, he didn't have the guts to offically end our relationship, he just didn't return my calls when I left a message for him to call me and let me know what is going on. You really need to move on and I know right now it is easier said than done. I am going on almost 2 weeks of no contact and it is very painful. Try to stay away from places he might be. My dad lives 5 minutes from my ex and I refuse to go over my dads house until my heart is healed because I am afraid of seeing my ex. Please try to have closure in your heart and tell yourself that this loser doesn't deserve you. Hang out friends, casually date, maybe sign up for match.com or eharmony.com and you might see that there are guys out there who want to only be with you and not flaut some loser who has a DUI.
Good luck and hugs!