Please help me!

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Please help me!
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 4:37pm
my boyfriend and i were together for 6 years. he recently broke up with me saying that for the 3rd time that he needed to be by him self. it has been 2 months since this happened. i slept with him about a month ago thinking that it would be different. it wasnt. i still talk to him but today was the last straw. i found out that he is been going out with a ex-best friend of mine. he keeps telling me that he is comming back and that he loves me and that he isnt messing around with her - but we all know that is a lie. today i called him and told him that i had spoke to her. she was very wishywashy about the whole situation. i asked her if they were messing around and she said - its none of your business. she said that they were best friends - and if there was more then there was more. he says that nothing is going on between them. i have had enough! what am i to do? please help!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 6:03pm
It sounds like you need to cut off all contact with him (and her!). Time to move on...there are better men out there for you. It will take a while to get over him since your relationship was for so long, but the longer you continue to have contact with him, the longer it will take.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:02pm
Welcome to the board!!

Your ex seems a little wishy-washy himself. I would normally say not to listen to what this ex friend of yours is saying because she is a former friend....meaning you aren't friends now......so she'd probably say anything to make you mad. It doesn't sound like they're really an item since I'm sure she'd love to rub that in your face but whether he is fooling around with her or not is still to be determined. I would be more worried about the fact that he has broken up with you 3 times and has gotten sex from you since the break-up. It does kind of sound like he's trying to be a player. My advice is to cut your ties and move on....it doesn't sound like you'll ever get the kind of relationship you want out of this guy. good luck and keep us posted.

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