gosh i know how you feel with him calling you after he gets off work my ex would get off at 11 or 12 at night sometimes, and sometimes i think, what is he doing, he's probably with another girl (worst case scenario i know), but i've learned to accept that at this point. it is his problem if he jumps into something else and blames it on them too. sometimes he wouldn't call or would call the next morning and say he forgot and i would always be the one calling him. he was just detached. i can't live my life thinking about him and what he's doing. i've tried to distract myself with music, books, movies, that helps a lot. friends are busy but i try and do dinner with them everyday despite that. i've thrown myself into school since i'm finishing my bachelor's in may. i've even been thinking of taking up a new hobby, like painting or guitar. i have a lot of free time, since i lost my job during the relationship and i'm pretty independent as it is. i've taken a lot of positives out of the break up and now i'm free of worrying about him, when or if he will call, or all of the drawbacks of a relationship. seriously take time for yourself, you will feel so much better after a little while. just keep active, staying in your house or room and just sitting might feel okay, but you will get yourself into a rut.
and honestly he may be feeling extremely guilty and struggling in his own way but detaching himself from it, wondering why he can't be in a stable relationship. he could also be blaming you for it. he might even call in a month, who knows what to expect. you might never know. but he may just let it carry over, like he has obviously done previous to yours and his relationship, to other areas of his life. you on the other hand will be able to heal, and move on, knowing there are better men out there for you, that will support you emotionally and not leave you questioning your own sanity.
you seem like an extremely emotionally intelligent and intuitive individual, i am very happy that i gave you some clarity through our very similar situations.
I feel the same way. At his old job, he would get off work around 4 or 5 PM and I would pick him up and we'd do something together or have dinner together. At his new job, he got off btwn 10 and 11 PM, and now every night at that time I am looking at the clock and listening for his car. He comes home 1 out of 7 nights. The other nights he stays at work and sleeps there or he sleeps at new girl's house. =(
It hurts alot.
If you girls want to chat with me, my email is my name (bballsweety32) at yahoo.
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gosh i know how you feel with him calling you after he gets off work my ex would get off at 11 or 12 at night sometimes, and sometimes i think, what is he doing, he's probably with another girl (worst case scenario i know), but i've learned to accept that at this point. it is his problem if he jumps into something else and blames it on them too. sometimes he wouldn't call or would call the next morning and say he forgot and i would always be the one calling him. he was just detached. i can't live my life thinking about him and what he's doing. i've tried to distract myself with music, books, movies, that helps a lot. friends are busy but i try and do dinner with them everyday despite that. i've thrown myself into school since i'm finishing my bachelor's in may. i've even been thinking of taking up a new hobby, like painting or guitar. i have a lot of free time, since i lost my job during the relationship and i'm pretty independent as it is. i've taken a lot of positives out of the break up and now i'm free of worrying about him, when or if he will call, or all of the drawbacks of a relationship. seriously take time for yourself, you will feel so much better after a little while. just keep active, staying in your house or room and just sitting might feel okay, but you will get yourself into a rut.
and honestly he may be feeling extremely guilty and struggling in his own way but detaching himself from it, wondering why he can't be in a stable relationship. he could also be blaming you for it. he might even call in a month, who knows what to expect. you might never know. but he may just let it carry over, like he has obviously done previous to yours and his relationship, to other areas of his life. you on the other hand will be able to heal, and move on, knowing there are better men out there for you, that will support you emotionally and not leave you questioning your own sanity.
you seem like an extremely emotionally intelligent and intuitive individual, i am very happy that i gave you some clarity through our very similar situations.
yes and please keep in touch, my email is leslie.mcgowen@gmail.com
Hi ladies,
I feel the same way. At his old job, he would get off work around 4 or 5 PM and I would pick him up and we'd do something together or have dinner together. At his new job, he got off btwn 10 and 11 PM, and now every night at that time I am looking at the clock and listening for his car. He comes home 1 out of 7 nights. The other nights he stays at work and sleeps there or he sleeps at new girl's house. =(
It hurts alot.
If you girls want to chat with me, my email is my name (bballsweety32) at yahoo.
*hugs*
Liz
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