please help...I hate this :(
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| Wed, 03-14-2007 - 5:29pm |
Okay, this might be a little long, but bare with me!
I have been dating this guy for about 5 months. Okay well he is the type of guy I would NEVER go for but somehow, something about him just grabbed my attention. Well, I should have never got this far with him but I never speak up enough. Here is my situation.
My guy has some issues. Not psychotic or anything, just life issues. He has a job, which is great. He doesnt have a car, no license, no friends, and barely any family. He is so smart (but didnt go to High school and no GED). WOW im making him sound horrible. Okay, he is an amazing guy and knows that he needs to get his stuff together but seeing as how he lives with his parents and his mom doesnt drive either, he relies only on his step-dad to help him get things done. (His step-dad never really makes the time). So, I care about him so much and want to see him get things together because I know he will and he is really determined but on the other hand, I am starting college April 3rd and will be working as well. The time thing is going to be a big issue!! (so will the fact that he doesnt drive)!! It is so bad to say this but I am in a way embarassed to take him in front of my family. My parents like him a lot but I am nervous about everyone else. He is just sort of not my type but we get along so well! I always picture being with someone outgoing and crazy and fun (like me). Its not that I hate being with my guy its just since im starting school, for the first time EVER, I feel like this is ME time. I dont think I want to be in a relationship right now. Its almost that I feel really sorry for him because, I am his first serious girlfriend and he has no one else. He tells me that I am his world and im as good as it gets. Hes not overly protective or attached or anything I just am so lost. I dont want to break his heart but something just doesnt feel right. OH yea, lets just throw in that his mom is WONDERFUL and she calls me DAUGHTER!!! AHHHH! Omg, I am scared that if I break up with him that it will be a huge mistake and I should just stick it out, or should I realize that Im young and there will be more opportunities. I sometimes feel like, how can I help someone else when I am trying to help myself!! Is that horrible. I need some good advice. If any of that is confusing just let me know. Sorry it was so long, thanks for sticking through it!!

Hi simplymae and welcome to the board.
Being with someone because you feel sorry for them is not a good reason to stay in a relationship. He need to find his own motivation to want better, to improve his life.