Please... I need some support...
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Please... I need some support...
| Tue, 01-15-2008 - 4:45pm |
Hey everyone. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years this morning. I know I made the right decision but I'm very sad right now. In the beginning our relationship was fantastic. I was 18 when we met, he was 22 and we were both in college. He was so sweet to me, we spent every night together and everything was great. Fast forward 4 (and a half) years and I am 23, in graduate school and living on my own. He is 26 and works as a waiter and lives with his parents. He doesn't want to spend time with me anymore he would rather go drink with his friends and whoever else. He has no ambition in life. I want to get married, have children and be happy. With him I know I'll never have that. We always fight and I'm sick of crying over him and him making me feel bad about myself. He accuses me of cheating (which I'm not) but I suspect him of cheating on me. Basically he's a jerk. He has a job but not a career, he has no savings and he is still living with his parents at his age. On top of all that I think he's cheating on me, I KNOW he lies to me and all he does is drink. Whenever we fight he twists everything around so its my fault and curses at me and calls me names. I can do better right? You bet I can! I'm 23 years old with a promising future in my field. I know I deserve better. I have been miserable for probably 2 years now. I feel sad but relieved. I know I'm rambling on and maybe not making any sense but basically I just want someone to either tell me they've been where I am and after the breakup they felt better or I just want someone to me I did the right thing and I deserve better. Thanks for reading and keep your chins up ladies we'll get through this!


Awww!
You did the right thing. Breaking up IS hard to do. But, it seems to me like you have a very strong future and he is just dragging you down. Wouldn't you want to be in a relationship where both partners grow together? And would you want to be in a relationship where both couples can't even trust each other because you guys think that you're cheating?
YOU DID the right thing and you should be happy. Don't you feel as though a burden has just lifted off of your shoulders? Anyways, good luck!
Nina
Sassy
I am with you!!!! I just ended a 3 year relationship, we were together since HS. Basically he had a ONS early into college, we tried to reconcile and he really did everything he could to show me what a mistake he had made. But then I started noticing other things- like you.
Welcome to the board sassy1184,
You did the right thing and you deserve better!! ;)
At the end of any relationship there is grief to process.
only you know what's best for you. and i'm glad that you had the strength to pursue it, rather than stick around. you protected and stood up for yourself. although i know it'll hurt like h*ll for awhile, be proud of yourself for