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| Wed, 03-14-2007 - 6:20pm |
ok, all of you are aware of my situation by now.
basically, my girlfriend and i are first loves, have been together for 4 years, we're from a small town and came to the city together to go to college. she met this guy at work in mid-january, and in a month ended up leaving me for him.
to update you all, i've come to terms with everything and accepted it for what it is. doesn't mean i'm not hurting still, or i don't think about it.
so.......
We haven't talked in 19 days, and it's been so hard because we talked everyday, multiple times a day for 4 years. Of course, she has this guy to distract her, but jeeze, i'm wondering if she will ever call! When we were together, she was completely into me, her friends said i was all she talked about, and we spent most of our day together. And it's been 19 days, and i haven't heard anything! Theories as to why this is happening are that she is feeling EXTREMELY GUILTY.
Basically, the way it ended, she cheated on me, and forced a breakup pretty much, and ended up having sex with him hours after we werent together (she then had sex with him everday the next week!). She told me there was no other guy, and that she needed time to herself and would be single "for a looooooong time", and when I told her I knew for a fact there was another guy she said they never hooked up, and they didn't go on a date-- he just asked her to the movies platonically. She never gave me an explanation, and just lied to me about everything. Hence, the real lack of closure, and the lack of respect to tell me the truth after 4 years.
I know for a fact this guy brainwashed her against me (although I'm aware it's her fault just as much), I mean when we were together she would tell me about "this guy at work", that would tell her "he has all this money and no girlfriend to spend it on", and he would tell her "she's beautiful and doesn't need a boyfriend that young, she needs to see the world." I felt bad/guilty for the fights we had at the end, but I realize it was just her finding reasons to not like me.
What kind of 23 year old guy spends $200 dollars on Crystale for 18 year olds?
Aside from having sex so fast, in 1 week they already told eachother they loved eachother, and I was informed that he said he wants to meet her parents already-- is that a real bad sign (that he wants a long-term commitment with her)?

Hi Zoey, got your email....
::What kind of 23 year old guy spends $200 dollars on Crystale for 18 year olds?
One that's either trying to impress, buy affection or is 'in love'.
I'm going thru a break up right now...been together four years and it should have ended over two years ago but what i realize the most now is that THEY do not THINK about YOUR FEELINGS...it's not about you, it's about her. and i know that hurts and kills you...believe me I know, but they don't...and YOU have to move on...and find someone out there that is worthy of your love...i should take my own advice.