Post Break Up Wedding Etiquette

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Registered: 08-31-2005
Post Break Up Wedding Etiquette
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 5:33pm

JR and I broke up earlier this week. My friend is getting married in two weeks. I RSVP'd that WE would be there. (The invitation was to me + guest, not him.) I plan to still go to the wedding. What is the proper thing to do? Should I go alone and sit next to an empty seat? Should I call the wedding coordinator and give her a heads up and see if she can fill the seat? Should I bring a friend? Should I still sign his name to the card even though the gift is just from me?

I have written the bride and left her a message but have gotten no response. I don't pretend to think that this is a big concern for her, but I was at a wedding last year where our table was half empty because people didn't follow through with their RSVP'd intentions.

What do you all think? Just want to get a little feedback on this one. I don't know protocol.

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Registered: 08-20-2005
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 6:10pm
I really don't know the protocol either. But less than 2 weeks after my boyfriend and I broke up, one of my old friends married one of his best friends. He was in the wedding, I was not. My invitation was sent to me as his date (it was an incredibly small, personal wedding). I contacted the bride personally, told her what had happened and talked to her about the situation. She told me my invitation still stood and that they would make arrangements to have us seated at different tables if need be. I know it's different but maybe it'll help somehow! Sorry I wasn't of more help!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-01-2005 - 9:22am

I would suggest trying the Good Housekeeping Etiquette Dilemmas board on iVillage. They'll give you some great responses and many on that board know proper "etiquette" as it's written in the Emily Post books, etc.

While I don't pretend to know proper etiquette, I would say to not let the seat go empty. I'd either call the wedding coordinator, or bring someone else.

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Registered: 05-04-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 5:43pm

Did you wanna bring someone else? I hate going to weddings alone. If you do, then just bring someone. A seat is a seat. And since it was "guest" no big deal.

If you don't plan on bringing anyone, I'd call the wedding coordinator, only because, that's one less plate the bride/groom have to pay for. And that's always the nice thing to do. versus paying for empty seats. Some ppl just don't get that, that their seat at the reception may have cost $30. and they can't even say "no" but instead, just don't show. What a waste of money.

Good luck.

~pineapple_girl