probably the worst i have felt yet...

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Registered: 10-28-2004
probably the worst i have felt yet...
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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 12:33pm
ok... so...im out shopping, having a pretty good time. i get done at the store im at, and move on to the next one.. i see the back of a guys head and think to myself (that looks like "R's" head, but he was getting a haircut, so that can't be him.. his hair is pretty shaggy..) well he turns around (didn't see me) and it was him. he was trying on beanies.. he is laughing, joking, having a good time with his friend (it's a girl, but they have been friends for YEARS.) i am not bothered by this (him being out with her).. im just sad that he is SO happy while im so miserable. these past few days i was thinking that he may come back... that things had been going alright between us, and he might be back. then i see him out tonight, and see how happy he is without me and it just like Screams to me that HE WILL NEVER be back, and doesn't want to ever be back.. him telling me that he didn't want to ever be with me again wasn't enough for me to realize it.. but seeing him tonight, that confirmed it. =( i honestly thought he was going to be a part of my life again, and it just hurts so bad (a pain i have not felt yet... i can't even describe how im feeling. its just awful) to know that isn't the case. we are over, have been. he is over me, truly over me, moved on and is happy now.



i need to accept this. it is just so hard, i am a MESS, an absolute mess right now. i came on the computer to talk to my friend, to try to get some comfort..i received the exact opposite.. although her words are probably true, and what i need to be told, they hurt. she told me he is NOT coming back to me, and i need to get over it and move on. i can't wait for him, because she doesn't see him coming back to me and that he has moved on. WOW. ouch =( i don't know what to do.

i really did think we were going to get back together... i had been reading too much into things that had been happening lately though (away messages on the computer... him trying to talk to me at school... silly things that really meant nothing that i took to mean he might be coming around...) why do i do this? why do i want to be with him so bad?(i mean, i KNOW why, i love him. i really do! this whole breakup was a big shock to me...i thought things were wonderful between us, but i guess i was wrong!=(

what do you guys think... do you think they ever come back, and it works out??? i am so desperate for that to happen, it is the only thing that keeps me going anymore.. that little tiny bit of hope i have left.. i can't believe i STILL have any hope. he told me "i don't think it would be good for us to ever be together again" that should be enough to make me not have hope.. you would think

ugh, i am just so confused/hurt/frustrated/lost. i don't know how much more i can take!=(

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 8:18pm
I am sorry you are feeling so bad but it will get better...during the first stage of a breakup it is natural for you to feel like he may change his mind but eventually you have to realize that this may not happen and if it does you dont want him back..how could you trust him again?

once you deal with the fact that it is over....then you truly can start to heal and move on with your life...so my best advice is to act like it is over and fill your time with new stuff that you did not have time to do when you were a couple.

there will be other loves in your life and someone who will treat you better....you must have hope and faith that this will happen...

good luck and remember there are many girls out there right now who have gone through the same thing or are going thru it right now ... it sucks but it is all part of risking something for love....


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Registered: 01-30-2004
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 9:58pm
(((Hugs))) I know seeing him so happy today must have really crushed you....I'm sooo sorry you're going through this. Don't feel bad about having that glimmer of hope for a reconciliation....as I feel most people do hold on to that hope for awhile.....as time goes on it will fade until you realize it isn't going to happen and you eventually move on. If he's telling you it wouldn't be a good idea to get back together you need to take what he says at face value. In my experience whenever me and an ex gave it another try....it would be ok for awhile but eventually it would end. You just have to stay strong...you'll get through this and we're here to help.









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