The promise of a man means nothing...
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The promise of a man means nothing...
| Tue, 11-07-2006 - 6:08pm |
So I'm about 3 days into my breakup. This is not the first time we've broken up. This is the 3rd. We were first dating for 3 months...hot and heavy, then broke up. Too hot. Too heavy. I was devastated at first but then I heard he had someone new and had no choice but to move on. 8 months passed and he called me. I had just broken up with someone 2 days before so I thought it was fate. We rekindled, he promised he'd never hurt me again, we were together 3 years solid and we had been talking about moving out together then BOOM all of a sudden he freaked out on me...said he wasn't happy, didn't know what he wanted. We hadn't been perfect, but there were no big problems that I was aware of. We had been living at his mom's house, but luckily I still had my own place so I moved out. 1 month passed and he showed up at my door at 3am saying he wanted to work it out, that he was sure of it. That was 1 year ago. a few months after, we moved in to our own place together, things were terrific, he told me he was no longer scared, he wanted to marry me, I was the love of his life, he wanted to get married, we even went ring shopping, at HIS request! He even told his friends, my family, that he wants to marry me! Come this past saturday, BOOM, he's scared, he's unhappy, he pushes me away AGAIN. I left our place to stay somewhere else last night. He hasn't called me in 2 days. I feel like I'm insane. Like I imagined the good in our relationship. Do promises mean nothing to men? Do they just say things for the sake of saying them? I feel like I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown. :(

I am so sorry to hear about your broken promises from your ex. My ex was the same exact way, he was the first to tell me that he loved me, I was the only girl for him, he didn't want anything to come between us, he even called me his wife to his friends and then BOOM he literally got scared and ran. That was almost 5 months ago and I am still an emotional mess at times. Men basically do this because they think they can handle a relationship and then when the relationship deepens, they get scared and run. This brings them down from being a man to being a little boy and who needs little boys for future husbands? If your ex has done this to you for the third time, DON'T give him a chance to do it to you for a fourth time. This is the second time my ex did this to me and he is history in my book because I will NEVER let him get another chance at breaking my heart again. Be thankful that this little boy is out of your life even though it hurts to no end. One day you and I will find a man who can handle a relationship. They are out there, we just need to heal our hearts and then go find them.
Take care during the painful period and take comfront in that you are not alone. Too many of us have been through this.
wow i like the part you mention..."One day you and I will find a man who can handle a relationship. They are out there, we just need to heal our hearts and then go find them".
CAN I JOIN hehehehe....LOL
Carrie
I'm sorry for what's happened, but I'd suggest being very careful not to let yourself believe that all men are like this.