To prove that I care

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Registered: 09-12-2005
To prove that I care
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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 8:16am

My bf broke up with me three weeks ago. At first, I was a mess, but then it got better. I realized that if it was meant to be then he wouldn't have called me out the blue, dumped me and then hang up with no explanation. So I called him alot for the first week. He never responded... nothing at all. So last night he showed up at my house after 11 pm and dropped my key off in the mailbox. Then sped away. A few mins later he texted me and said he dropped the key off. I didnt respond but then he called. He told me that he didnt want to end things but felt that I pressured him to... WHAT??? I never even mentioned breaking up. So, after talking for maybe 2 mins. He said he couldnt deal with it and hung. He then went on to text me saying that I should have driven up to his work after he dumped me to show that I truly cared about him. In my opinion that is ridiculous considering he didnt answer any of my calls or texts and if he did, he immediately hung up on me. He works in Philly. I live 45 mins from his work or house. I assumed that since he wouldnt answer his calls, he definitely wouldnt want to see me. Wouldnt that look stalkerish if I showed up at his work??? I refuse to drive 45 mins away just to be rejected again in person. If he really wanted to work things out, I would think he would just call me and explain everything and offer a sincere apology. Am I being unreasonable to say that driving there would set me back in my healing process? or does anyone think that it would help?

Jen

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Registered: 05-31-2007
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 11:51am
Hi Jen,
I think you are doing fine so far. I agree with you that it is ridiculous what he expected you to do - if he won't answer your calls, your not going to go over there are you?
He very obviously played a game that back-fired on him, he dumpted you because he wanted you to show him how much you cared! What a stupid, juvenile game!
I think you know instinctively that you cannot deal with someone who behaves like that, so don't go over there, move on and find someone a bit more 'grown up' who is worthy of you.
Best of luck.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 12:42pm

Hi Jen,


Ahh, he's how old?