Pushing to end it

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2007
Pushing to end it
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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 2:53pm
I've always have had problems with relationships. I date the wrong guys. Don't we all?
This one guy just fell into my lap while i was dating a complete a**hole. We where absolutely comfortable around each other. After learning that my current bf cheated on me with my sister. I called it quits and dated Tim. Tim is the nice, outgoing, do anything for you type person. He helped me kick the drinking and the drugs. We where both a blessing to have each other. Me, always thinking things won't work out, started drifting back into being a complete a**hole. Always angry, never letting him vent, always complaining about my life. After 2 1/2 years he called it quits. He told me to find what makes me happy, then maybe we could be together. He told me about a month and a half ago that he doesn't love me anymore. I know i'm stubborn. I just really don't think it's true. I know i made his life "miserable". Am i too blind to see the truth? Well the other day he posted a poem. A confusing one at that. So many mixed emotions. Should i bother trying to win the love of my life back or just let him make the moves? Thanks, Annie
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Registered: 02-23-2005
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 3:36pm
I don't know, Annie. It sounds like he did the right thing to end things with you. It sounds like you an a lot of unresolved isssues and he can't be the one to take care of them or you. I think you should take this opportunity to really resolve everything you need to before you get back into a relationship with him or someone else again. Good luck!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 3:45pm

Welcome to the board Annie,


I'd strongly recommend you take some time to work on you. Make you your #1 project.


Reading material to consider:


What Smart Women Know, Steven Carter & Julia Sokol


Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis


The Four Agreements, Miguel Ruiz