QOTW-Question of the week(end) 9/18

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QOTW-Question of the week(end) 9/18
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 12:34am
What have you learned from your past relationships?
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Registered: 09-10-2004
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 1:02pm
1) Pay attention to your instincts.

2) Forgive yourself for past mistakes.

3) You can't "make" it be right.

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Registered: 08-20-2004
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 10:35am
the thing that i've learned most from my past relationship - is that the grass in not always greener on the other side.

i was w/my ex boyfirend for 5 years, cheated on him w/someone i met at school. he found out and every since then he's been cheating on me. just recently we decided that it be best if we both just be friends. now i'm realizing that although, our relationship was not perfect, the ends didn't justify the means. now he's w/the person that he cheated on me with-their together.

he says that he's not happy w/the way our situation turned out, but i can't beleive that b/c he's still w/her. now i'm lonely, confused, and desperate at times to win back his affection but its hard b/c he no longer sees us as a couple. he says that he still loves me, but i think its a ploy b/c he still wants to sleep w/me.

i messed up a really good thing and now i'm suffering b/c of it. My Advice, if your relationship is in trouble, its best to talk to your s/o before you step outside of the relationship b/c once this happen there's no going back.

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Registered: 05-09-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 11:55am
I'll never live with another boyfriend again... I will wait to move in together after the wedding (if there ever is one!) I guess it works for some, but I've done it twice now and never will again.

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 3:14pm
1) No matter how bad the pain is from a broken heart -- it will not kill you.

2) Always love yourself more than you love the other person.

3) Don't discard the good with the bad. My ex posesses many of the qualities that I would expect someone who newly enters my life to have.

4) Girlfriends are worth their weight in gold.

5) Don't assume just because you are madly in love, so are they. It is too easy to project your feeling onto your partner. Words and actions should match. If there is one without the other, then it is not a good sign for the future of the relationship.

6) Do not get into a romantic relationship with someone who is newly separated, no matter how adamently they tell you they are ready for one, no matter how smart and sweet they seem. They may honestly believe that they are ready, but they are not. It can take 1 to 2 years to rebuild after a marriage splits up.

7) When someone tells you that they "Need Space" and don't want to be in a committed relationship right now, take it for what it is --- a breakup pure and simple. This is said by people who think they are letting you down gently when in fact it is a very cruel way to break up.

8) Sometimes in order to find yourself, you have to lose the person you love.