hi there, i'm in the same boat you're in except we just broke up a little over a week ago, and we also have a child together. we dont speak and his dad picks and drops off baby. it's hard even thinking of your baby's father moving on, especially when it's with someone else, but i don't think the letter should be sent. i've been back and forth on this question myself, on whether or not i should call/make contact/send a letter but i just think in the long run, it's better off not sent, especially if one of the main reasons is to say that you were bugged by seeing him with someone else. it would bug me too, but maybe he's just trying to pick up the pieces of his life and that's his way of doing it. also, he may seem happy, but who knows if he is, really? i'm sorry, that's the best advice i can give you. i don't want you sending him the letter and then maybe hating yourself later for it. or him getting the wrong idea and thinking you want him back when you don't know if you do want him back. i'm going through the exact same thing you are right now, and it hurts, but hopefully it will get better. that's what everybody says. let us know what you decide to do :)
Thanks paradisochick I really appreciate you talking the time for reading and responding to my post.Gosh this sucks ...the thing is that I wasn't going to tell him that it bugged me when I seen him I wanted to tell him way I left him while he was in jail(he hit a cop I know what a dumbass) that's why he hadn't spoke to me his mom said he was really hurt .....I mean theres a lot more to this story but when we try to talk it gets out off hand .
i know, it sucks so bad! i'm so sorry that you're feeling this way because i know how much it hurts. i know the uncompleted feeling of things that go unsaid when a break-up occurs, and i'm trying to fight that myself. my ex and i still seem to get into an argument when we talk to each other too, even when it's on the phone. it starts out well and then it goes bad and i'm left crying again, that's why i think it's just best if we don't see/talk to each other for a while, if anything, just to salvage what we can for our baby. that's why i don't think you should send a letter, because there's always that chance he might read more into that letter than you meant. and i'm sure he will have things to say about it and then it starts all over again, whether it's talk about the relationship (good or bad) or you two just end up fighting again. i'm sorry i can't offer more advice. i hope everything goes well for you, and that you do what's best for baby. :)
i'm in the same boat you're in except we just broke up a little over a week ago, and we also have a child together. we dont speak and his dad picks and drops off baby. it's hard even thinking of your baby's father moving on, especially when it's with someone else, but i don't think the letter should be sent. i've been back and forth on this question myself, on whether or not i should call/make contact/send a letter but i just think in the long run, it's better off not sent, especially if one of the main reasons is to say that you were bugged by seeing him with someone else. it would bug me too, but maybe he's just trying to pick up the pieces of his life and that's his way of doing it. also, he may seem happy, but who knows if he is, really?
i'm sorry, that's the best advice i can give you. i don't want you sending him the letter and then maybe hating yourself later for it. or him getting the wrong idea and thinking you want him back when you don't know if you do want him back. i'm going through the exact same thing you are right now, and it hurts, but hopefully it will get better. that's what everybody says.
let us know what you decide to do :)
Welcome to the board sexy-leo-1983,
This is just my personal opinion, based on experience.....
Thanks paradisochick I really appreciate you talking the time for reading and responding to my post.Gosh this sucks ...the thing is that I wasn't going to tell him that it bugged me when I seen him I wanted to tell him way I left him while he was in jail(he hit a cop I know what a dumbass) that's why he hadn't spoke to me his mom said he was really hurt .....I mean theres a lot more to this story but when we try to talk it gets out off hand .
i'm sorry i can't offer more advice. i hope everything goes well for you, and that you do what's best for baby. :)
I completely understand what you are going through at the moment.