question for the men

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
question for the men
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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 12:24pm
how do you feel when you break up with a girl...as in you dump her?

why do you call or email after the breakup?

how do you feel if she contacts you?

do you miss her?

does it depend on how long you were together?

do you ever second guess your decision?

i am asking for those of you who do the break up when the relationship seems to be goig well according to the woman and the break up comes out of the blue?

thanks for your responses

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2004
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 1:14pm
how do you feel when you break up with a girl...as in you dump her?

ITS SAD BUT JUST THAT, IVE DONE THAT AND ITS SAD

why do you call or email after the breakup?

WELL SHE WONT CALL; WILL SHE? BESIDES THATS THE ONLY WAY TO KNOW HOW SHE IS GOING

how do you feel if she contacts you?

WOW I THINK SHE SEEMS TO BE INTERESTED AFTER ALL

do you miss her?

YEA BUT NEVER TO THE POINT OF DEPRESSION . I STILL REMEMBER FONDLY GIRLS I DUMPED N THAT WAS 2 - 3 YRS AGO (I STILL HAV ALL THE LETTERS N PHOTOS).

does it depend on how long you were together?

NO BUT ON HOW MUCH WE CARE FOR EACH OTHER

do you ever second guess your decision?

YEA BUT WHAT IS DONE IS DONE

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 2:24pm
ok, thanks for your reply....one question i have for you though...

you say that if she calls you...you think wow she must be interested....does this mean that you broke up with her because you thought she was not interested in you?

and why do you want to know how she is doing? does that mean you still care on some level or is it purely ego driven....just wondering..

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2004
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 6:59pm
well, when I said "interested" I mean that basically I (the man) has to call her , pick up her , make the plans etc. and it seems to me that most women are quite receptive or passive within a relationship.

Even when we had arguments n fought I HAD to call my ex-es to find out what was going on.

So, when they take alittle initiative by calling or so, it makes me feel they r interested , that is.


AND well when Ive dumped girls I call them after to see how they are, its just that I never want to totally severe ties with them, unless when I am really angry, which happened with an ex that broke up with me.. by e-mail!!!! (I printed the e mail as an historic evidence)