Question- New gf

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Question- New gf
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Mon, 01-08-2007 - 11:52am

My ex and I have all the same friends and although I try to avoid him in one-on-one situations, its hard to avoid him 100%. He started dating a new girl in november and it still hurts me to see them together and to see him happy with her when the reason he and I broke up is because he "didn't want to be in a relationship". Even tho he lied and has done hurtful things, I try to be civil and friendly to him for our friends' sake.

I think he will be bringing his new gf to more of our social outings and I feel that it is slowing my healing progress since each time I see them I get upset. I don't know what to do. My question is.. Should I avoid any get togethers if I know she will be there? Or should I be stronger and shrug it off?
I don't think it's fair that I miss out on fun times with my friends to avoid the ex and the new gf.. but I'm also tired of feeling crappy after being around them.

I've been trying to make new friends and hang out with them more so that I don't have to think about or see my ex but I don't want to lose touch with my current friends over this.. It's happened to me before where a breakup has broken up a close group of friends.. It's sad.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 12:19pm
Until you heal the most healthy thing you can do for yourself is avoid them by not going to things you know they will be attending as a couple.


Carrie