Rage

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Registered: 10-28-2005
Rage
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 4:07pm
I have so much rage when I think about all the things he did and said to me in the end. And he did it just to hurt me. How can I get over this rage. It actually builds in my chest until I just wish I could choke him. :(
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Registered: 02-09-2004
In reply to: baalpriestess
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 4:30pm
I hear you- sometimes I just need to scream or want to punch somethnig.... I've been writnig alot (my therapist said to). Write letters to him, to you, about everything--but never send them!! And don't go back & read them. Get out every emotion you can. Another thing is working out- go for a run, go to a kickbox class, etc. It's not good to keep the anger pent up. I am a regular runner so I need my 5 mile run everyday to "release". plus, we will look hot w/all our working out :o) lol
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: baalpriestess
Thu, 04-20-2006 - 5:05pm

Oh, I hear ya...the anger stage was the hardest for me, too. I felt so much rage towards my ex in my most recent breakup (he just disappeared on me without a word after 1.5 years) that I thought I would explode!

It does pass though...I found that journaling, posting here, venting to friends, and seeing my counselor all helped. And sometimes just SCREAMING out loud (when I was alone, of course), LOL!

Sheri

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Registered: 06-10-2003
In reply to: baalpriestess
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 11:32am

Sheri just reminded me of something I've been doing for the 'anger' feeling.

I've made CDs/compilations after my breakups that helped me listen to songs about what I was going thru. This latest one will be my 3rd "volume" in the "series" (yes, I have to put humor in it to help the pain). Anyway, I'm calling it the "SHOVE" album, meaning the anger, the shove I want to give him, the get away from me/you don't deserve me/how could you theme. I've got about 17 tracks already on there and seriously when I listen to the playlist, I feel pretty good!

It also just helps me pass time ;) Plus, my friends have helped me think of songs along this theme too.

Some of the tracks I listen to while at the gym running and I feel like "I am woman" when I hear them!

Just my 2 cents...