Re: Friends after breakup?
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| Thu, 02-15-2007 - 9:57pm |
I just don't understand why he is keeping in contact with me if he is not interested in having a relationship with me again. Doesn't that make things harder? When we decided to end the relationship we both agreed to be best friends and not lose touch. He emailed me the very next day and things have evolved from there. He downloaded AIM to talk to me almost every night and he calls me every once in a while. He just left to go to Florida for 4 days and they overbooked his flight so they offered him $600 in flights to give up his seat and get on a later flight. He agreed and then called me and asked me if I wanted the $600. He said he knew me and my sister wanted to go on spring break but couldn't afford it. He just called me today to see if I would send an email for him since he doesnt have access to a computer in Florida. He still calls me the nickname that he used to call me (Brini) and still calls me princess and all that little stuff that I loved.
To me it feels like we are still in a relationship minus the physical part. I miss that part alot. Not just sex, but even holding hand with him and snuggling.
I am 50/50 on this breakup. On one hand, I feel like it was a good decision because now I am completely 100% sure of my feelings for him and I know that he is the guy I am supposed to be with. But then again, did I just ruin my chance to be with such a wonderful, caring person that I am totally in love with? Did I hurt him so bad that he will never trust me enough to get back into a relationship with me???

Let's go over this again:
Im sorry but I think Sandra is wrong. Its not about the challenge at all. Do you believe that once you dont have something, you realize all of the good things about that something that you dont have anymore? We saw each other yesterday in person for the first time since we broke up (about a month and a half) and suprisingly it was not awkard at all. It felt like we were still in a relationship minus the physical part. Its not like I am the only one making contact.
The main thing I dont understand is why he wants to be single. WHY?!!! I know for a fact he is not interested in meeting other people. He is completly happy coming home from work everyday and hanging out watching TV with his roommate or being on the internet. Its not like he is taking this chance to go out and meet girls. He says he wants to be single because he wants to go on a road trip at the end of the summer for a month but I still dont understand that because we were in a long distance relationship for his first two years of college! We saw each other about once a month for 2 years!
I feel like he is scared that if we get back into a relationship there is a chance that this could happen again. But I know it wont. I have done so much thinking and before this happened I had this idea that every relationship should be like a fairy-tale and if there is work involved, the relationship is not meant to be. I was very naive for thinking that. I now know there is much work that goes into maintaining a relationship and keeping the passion alive. This may have been the biggest problem in our relationship. It was just at a standstill and we were not working to change it and take it to another level. There is no such thing as a relationship that is magically right, you have to work to make it right. I was lost in a world of drama that led to thoughts of having the perfect relationship meant a minimal amount of work and things always turning out the way they do in movies.
I made a huge mistake and even after 7 weeks I still believe I did.