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| Mon, 05-16-2005 - 6:04pm |
I’m not sure if I should call my ex-boyfriend.
A few months prior our break up we were having a lot of problems which caused me depression and Anxiety Disorder. I was for months trying to understand his nonsense behavior.
He was always sending me double messages on whether he wanted to be with me or not - His inconstancy was driving me crazy!
He finally broke up with me - saying that he was too busy to be involved in a relationship.
At first, it was really hard for me to let go, but I realized that it was the best for both of us. He wanted to be friends. According to him he wanted to keep me in his life and he care a lot for me.
I didn’t want to be friends, because I needed time to be away from him and be myself again. I told him not to call me until we both were ready to be friends.
During the first weeks after the break up,
* I went through depression again.
* I was not able to function on my daily basis,
* I dropped off school,
* I left my job
* I lost almost 10 pounds and
* I went back to my parent’s house.
It has been over three months since the brake up and I feel so much better now that he’s not around.
*I’m working in a Law firm where I’m making the double the money I was making.
*I have been working out and I look and feel great
* I go out with my friends and I don’t miss him as much
* I spend more time with my family
A lot of good things happened as a result of our break up- I feel really good about myself
However, I want to talk him, it was me who didn’t’ want to be friends in the first place, but now I think I’m ready to be his friend.
I say I think, because I’m not sure, I don’t want to get hurt again, and I don’t want to start all over again with the same thing.
Should I call him? I know for sure that he misses me and cares about me. I know he’ll be happy if I call.
I’m just too scared, I don’t want to get hurt again – If anybody been in my situation. And advice is more than welcome.
Thanks

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"I have enough new things now to remind me that in order to allow room for the new stuff, the old stuff has to move on out." I LIKE THAT!
Are you talking about the old boyfriend (old stuff) or New Prospects - I think it works both ways!
I know - We should do that!!!
We should open a new discussion to see who have spent more money in order to move on after break up - I'm should there's people that have spent more than us!. Don't you think?
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