The real-life "The Break-Up"
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| Mon, 10-15-2007 - 12:18am |
Yes, I feel like I'm Jennifer Aniston right now in the movie, "The Break-Up." Hopefully, everyone can me some good advice about living with an ex.
So my BF and I live together, and have been together for a little over 2 years (living together for 1 year). We bought a condo together last year... it's in his name, but I purchased all the furniture. When we moved in, he was so excited, and moving in together was his idea. He was even telling my mom that I was girl he was going to marry.
For the most part, I thought everything was great. We just took a vacation to Argentina in September, and have really been growing. I guess I was wrong because this week he just told this isn't working out. Saying with have "fundamental differences"... whatever that means... and when I ask him to explain these "fundamental difference, he gives these petty/minor answers. It's very strange! I also tried to see if we can try and work this out, but he's not willing to try. He's just being very negative, and not looking at the great things we have.
Another thing that's going on is that I just found out I have a hyperthyroid, and might have something called Grave's Disease. So his timing in telling me this couldn't have be any better ;) I'm still mad at the fact he told he didn't want to be together in the MORNING, right before I was going to work! Who does that?!?! Someone that is suppose to be my friend and care about me?!?! NO! I really just feel like I don't even know who he is anymore.
So, it's very awkward now... since we are still living together and he is acting like nothing is wrong. He's just hiding his emotions and won't express to me how he is feeling. I'm not sure what is going to happen with the condo... he said I could buy it from him, but there's no way I can afford it on my own unless my mom helps me. So now I'm the one that going to have to try to find some place that can fit all my furniture. I told him that if I have to move, there's no way I can move until I get my health issue taken care of. He said he understood.
Thanks for reading, and any advice is much appreciated.

I lives this 10 mths ago. I dated my b/f for 2 yrs long distance then I moved 7 hrs away from my family to move in with him. We lived together for 4 1/2 yrs and most of it was good. We'd argue like eveyone does but we never broke up until the wk b/w Christmas and New Yrs this past yr.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I lived with a boyfriend for almost 3 years, and we had to live out 3 months of a lease together in the same apartment. It was very hard, because I would cry whenever he was around. What we did is:
- Separate sleeping areas. One in bed, one in the pull-out couch
- We took as many breaks as possible, meaning he spent a lot of time sleeping at his Mum's, and I spent weekend's at my family's, or with a friend
Overall, the break-up was pretty amicable, but living together sucked. It was great to get my own space.
Good luck.