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off for real this time
| Fri, 01-27-2006 - 6:52pm |
i've been with this guy on again off again for a year and a half now and i think it's coming to a permament off and i'm falling apart. i love him so much and i just keep blaming myself and thinking what i could have done differently, i'm hurting so much right now and i remember how this board helped me during past break ups. i just feel like such a failure and that if i were better this would never happen and we'd be together. i can't stop blaming myself
some kind words, anything
:(
some kind words, anything
:(

I agree with the previous poster. If you were on and off so many times, the next time would have probably been the same - on and off. We all tend to idealize our relationhips when they are over, but the reality is different. THere were reasons while you broke it off, right - think of them and they would probably pop up again.
Here is the thing - relationships that were supposed to work out - they do, but if you put too much effort into that - that it's probably not a good sign. And, to work on something requires two people - not one - what if I... doesn't really work - if every one of you had asked this question and then both talked and decided that you were on the same page and both of you want to do something about it - then it's one thing - but it's not only you. It really takes both and the dynamics might have been not the best in order to deal with a conflict. It happens. It sucks. I know that, because I've been there, but believe me, you are in love with what you want, but not what you had...
Keep your head up as hard as it is.
-Me