A really good article- from a new friend

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Registered: 10-18-2007
A really good article- from a new friend
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Fri, 10-19-2007 - 4:47pm

Hi there to all.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 6:23pm

Welcome to the board Irene,


Just click on this link Zen of Doing Nothing

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 7:10pm
This makes total sense! I always told me ex that i would focus on being the best person I can be (faults and all) and that it was always his "choice" whether or not to stay with me or not. I think knowing that he had his freedom during our realtionship is what gave us a good relationship, well, until it ended (which had more to do with differences in values). But I think that's why I can at least walk away with dignity in this relationship. I lived my life as best i could to the best of my ability, and in the end he chose that it wasn't right for him. There was nothing I could have done to stop him. I think this helps speed up my recovery process because at least I feel my self-esteem is in tact. I have a good sense of who I am and where I'd like to go...not just gotta find someone who is on board with that. in due time...in due time...