Really Want To Break NC

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2007
Really Want To Break NC
5
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 9:38am

So I am having a tough day and have not spoken to the ex really since last Sunday (July 29?). I texted him at 11 PM on my birthday just saying "thanks" because he never called and I was upset about it so I wanted him to know that it hurt me. Now it is Tuesday and I still havnt gotten any response from him. I am going to be at my beach house this weekend. He lives 4 blocks from us there and chances are pretty high that I might possibly run into him. I hate not being able to call him and yell at him for not calling me on my birthday but I know it is better if I dont. The only way I will actually get him back is to not call, text, email or do anything. It is just so hard knowing he lives so close to me at the beach and after this month is over I wont be there anymore...

Thoughts?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-30-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 11:00am
Well, being in the same situation, writing him a letter was how I broke no contact, though a couple people here said that was a bad idea. I guess ANY contact is considered a bad idea. I think it would be tough for your ex to know how to respond to your sarcasm. You said 'thanks' but what you meant was, 'ouch.' Maybe writing is a good way to really get out your feelings,(regardless of whether you decide to send anything to him...) and then if you do run into him you'll be better prepared to say what you're really feeling.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 11:51am

Write an UNSENT letter, scream on paper.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 1:32pm

Yeah you are both right. I am not going to call. I just hope if I run into him at some point before summer ends that I have the strength to not even talk to him.

Thanks

Meg

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-25-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 10:12pm
I know it f'n sucks! Try your hardest NOT to call. He already knows you are hurt, and didn't take the time to apologize. If you see him on the beach...act like you are having the time of your life. Maybe just give him a polite smile and keep walking. Kill him with your kindness. I am trying to do that myself. It is soooo hard. And I work with my ex, and I want to get back together soo bad. I've tried everything...crying, ignoring, being nice, being mean, and playing it cool. I feel PATHETIC! AND I STILL have hope!? Every day I pray that he asks me to hang out and work things out. Everyone is telling me to move on and he's not worth it, but I can't help it. I think he IS worth it. I think the only thing that will help me is to meet someone else...but then I'm afraid I'm going to compare every guy to him, and that will make me miss him even more. Anyway, DON'T call him. He will only say something hurtful and you will hang up more upset then you are now. Believe me, it happened every time I tried. Let him come back to you if it's going to happen.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 8:52am
It is good to know that I am not the only person that feels this way. I know it is so unbelievably wrong for me still to want to be with him but I do. I know that the real reason he didnt call me/apologize is because he doesnt want to give me false hope (even though I completely am still hopeful we will get back together.) He is a truly amazing person and I love everything about him. It just sucks he doesnt seem like he feels the same way about me anymore. It is now Wednesday and I still havnt initiated contact and obviously he hasnt called me either. I am just trying to take it one day at a time.. If I see him at the beach this weekend I am completely going to try and act like I am doing great, having an awesome time etc. I just hope I am able to hold up!!! Like you said it is just soooo hard!!! and the summer is almost over... once it ends we will be about 2 hours away from each other so i dont think i will ever see him again... after march he moves across the country to who knows where with the army so at that point I am pretty much out of his life. That is what makes this time so hard bc he is so close and I know he will be gone so soon... I completely feel pathetic and have been acting like a crazy person to my friends and until last week to him as well... It is even harder when friends are constantly telling you "he's not worth it blah blah" when you know he completely is!
I said the exact same thing about meeting som1 else but I have a hard enough meeting guys I want to be with because i'm 5'11" and will not date a guy below 6'0"...It would be a hell of alot easier if I had more of a pool to choose from..