Relapsing

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Relapsing
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Sun, 07-15-2007 - 6:49pm
I am 5 months post break up and have been doing OK - not great but OK - until yesterday. A couple that has always reminded me of my ex and I just got married and they are having a baby. I just freaked out when I saw how happy they are and in love, and got so depressed. Its like a reminder of what I was really close to having and lost. Not to mention it also terrified me that if I am reacting this bad to a couple who just reminded me of us, what is going to happen to me when my ex actually gets married and has a baby?!?
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Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: waterworks2007
Sun, 07-15-2007 - 10:00pm

You're projecting your today feeligns waaaaay into the future, which is a really good way to drive yourself bonkers.

Allow yourself one good cry over that couple's happiness and then pick yourself up by the brastraps and get going again. In fact, make sure you send them a congratulations card and a little something for the new baby. I promise it'll make you feel better about the whole thing.

Remember every breakup happens for a very good reason, your reason is still coming to you.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: waterworks2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 8:37am
You have to put that out of your mind and don't allow yourself to really get any news about your ex. I know I was devastated when my 8-year ex got married. I honestly wish I never found out. Protect yourself from hearing about his life. Just keep going forward.