Returning a gift

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Registered: 06-12-2004
Returning a gift
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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 3:06am

Before my ex and I broke up he gave me a nice Pottery Barn throw for Christmas. It never matched my color scheme even though he tried so I wasn't real fond of it at first. He said he wanted to give me something to keep me warm. I get cold very easily.

During the time when we were not together but thinking about getting back together I sort of used it as a surrogate of him on the nights when he was busy and I was lonely. Having it wrapped around me made me feel a little better about being alone.

Now I want nothing to do with it. I took it and threw it in a closet. I have thought about giving it back to him and explaining why I can't keep it. We still haven't done the exchanging of stuff the other one has.

I am keeping everything else he gave me and have no desire to give those things back since they don't have the symbolic meaning of the throw.

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Registered: 10-09-2006
In reply to: webgrl02
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 10:28am
I don't think you should give it back. If it was a cordial breakup, then it will be a slap in the face. If it was not, he will only think it is petty. If you can't stand to have it around, you could give it to Goodwill or another charity. If you think you might want it someday, you can put it in the darkest corner of your closet and never look at it until you no longer harbor any ill feelings toward your ex and any material objects that he gave you.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: webgrl02
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 12:46pm
Hi Webgrl, I agree with Krismae - don't give it back to him.