rigth or wrong?

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Registered: 03-08-2007
rigth or wrong?
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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 8:42am

hi everyone. it's been awhile since i've posted. my ex- was cheating on me with a coworker since nov 06 and i had no clue for 5 months, despite all the red flags i saw, i trusted him when he told me they were just friends. tumultuous break up in mar 07. we tried to be friends, but i still cared about him, so it was hard. i have successfully done no contact for 2 months and then stopped.

for the last 2 weeks he has been text messaging me that he misses and loves me. we saw each other last saturday for a chaste sleepover because i still have some emotional and sentimental attachment to him, since we were together for 5 yrs.

this last friday i forwarded all of the text messages he sent me to his gf, the one he cheated on me with. she was furious of course and called back to tell me that he was seeing her behind my back for a long time, longer than what i knew of, and that they were trying to have a baby together.

i was shocked, but at this point, i wonder if i was doing this for the right moral reasons or for my own gain?

is it right for me to get involved with something where i know that he was trying to play both sides of the fence and have me there to fill the emotional void left by her when they argue and fight- since he can't seem to accept her 1 year old daughter and her ex- as a part of his new relationship? or is it entirely selfish because i still have feelings for him and all this is unecessary drama?

any opinions are greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: ccheckers
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 11:31am

Yeah, this one's gonna be way harsh.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ccheckers
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 12:02pm

Pianoguy completely agrees with Sandra!

What's the point of putting yourself through this nonsense again? It's clear that if your EX could cheat on you once...the likelihood of a "rerun" is very strong.

Aren't you interested in finding ONE MAN who will love YOU for A LIFETIME?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-13-2007
In reply to: ccheckers
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 12:49pm
RUN, RUN, RUN! You deserve better than a two timer! Once a two-timer, always a two-timer. This other girl may put up with his cheating crap, but you need to rise above it! I promise it will make you stronger.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: ccheckers
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 12:54pm

Welcome back ccheckers,


WOW, I gotta say I agree with Sandra.