This is sort of an update to my post:we all know how hard it is to move on after a bad relationship. I broke up with my ex two months ago because he was a JERK. He was great one minute and a jerk the next. So after 2 months of no contact, he calls me to see who I am doing and how good it is to hear from me and he's glad I am doing alright. Whats up with this? I dont care about him......parts of me still hurt, but I am healing. Why is he doing this and no I dont want to get back together.......I responded normally and told him I was fine....but I am doing so well. I wish he would not call me....any advice? Ok, so a few days later..i bought a new cell phone and got a new # in the process. I started calling my friends to tell them my new #. I called him too……….when I called and told him, he said “this is why you called me?” in an exasperated voice as if it was a silly reason to call him or something…..which hurt my feelings some. I realized that by telling him my new # , well calling him, made me vulnerable to him hurting me again, which he did. But only for a moment…….Its been hard these past two months , trying to heal……after the way he treated and used me. When he called me, he disrupted my life. I was doing ok and he HAD to call. I suspect that he is having problems with his current gf, if they are still together .its a long distance relationship thing. I was very good to him..loyal, caring, affectionate, everything. I hope that one day he realizes that he was an idiot for treating me bad, his current gf is basically a skank.who is materialistic and such. BUT my point is…..I gave him my # because I want him to call me so he can tell me how he misses me and that he was and is a jerk and beg for me to take him back. Now, I don’t want him ……but I want to feel satisfied…..I think that I have this fantasy that he will come crawling back……..but he has so much pride. So much pride. I kow I should focus on him begging and I don’t just every now and then……….I transferred to another school…..and I know he is having a rough time without me…..we were both juniors in college when we were together, and we studied together and were always laughing and supporting each other, of course we had fights but who doesn’t?> we were good friends……well I was, he was just a promise breaker and a jerk. So now I’m no longer there to support him or help him in any way…….he hurt me so much. I just want him to hurt too. You know what I mean? I want him to feel the way I felt when I was with him, empty and worthless. I think that when I called him and gave him my # this past Saturday, he was mostly disappointed that I wasn’t calling to get back with him……….he did sound disappointed and you know what? A part of me almost gave in because of the nasty way he talked to me………..but I didn’t. He just said that my # was now in his phone since I called him. I said ok and bye, I hung up first…….BUT I just want revenge…………..but I also want to move on……so I don’t want him calling me and opening up wounds that still aren’t fully healed but I do want him to have my # so he can call and beg me………pathetic I know. Gosh……….I am confused as to his signals………..I don’t want to play games with him and I guess I am in a way…………I just want to heal. I am starting to care less and less about him wanting me back…………..cause the more time passes the more I see what a jerk he is and how he hurt me…….and the more I start noticing the truly sweet guys……….any thoughts, suggestions, or experience? Please be supportive ……I know that I need to move on.. but I guess a part of me still wants to stay in the past…….its so frustrating.