Roller Coaster

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Registered: 08-25-2005
Roller Coaster
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Mon, 12-26-2005 - 5:22pm
UGH!! I am so sick of all these ups and downs. One minute things will be great and the next horrible. I'll be so happy with the way things are going and then suddenly its like bad luck steps in and makes things terrible again. I don't know what to do because it's so hard to completely cut him out of my life. But I just don't understand how things can be so perfect and then him suddenly get "too busy" to see or talk to me for days! Sometimes it seems like the less attention I pay him, the more he pays me. But its so hard to stop myself! I know I overanalyze everything but sometimes he's gotta be just ignoring me and not just "not by his phone" or whatever excuse he comes up with. I don't know why he bothers to tell me he wants to be back together and then treats me like crap. I'm so tired of playing these games but I don't know what to do because I'm not ready to let go. I can't take this sick feeling anymore of worrying about and analyzing his every move. How do I get through this?!
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 6:32pm
Are you clingy and need too much reassurance? This is a sure turn off to a man. A man wants to pursue a woman a bit, if she is falling over herself to keep him it scares him off. Noone wants to have to be someones 'everything'. It's too scary and too much responsibility. And overanalyzing everythig looking for sings of betrayal can also be smelled by a guy. Acting like you can't live without him really makes a guy cringe. You have to act like you have it all together, that if he can't see you are a great catch then he can take a hike. That confidence is what a man respects. Never let on to a man that you like him too much. Dont 'always be available, have other friends, other activities (or say you do). And what does treats me like crap mean?