The Roommate - advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2007
The Roommate - advice?
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Tue, 03-13-2007 - 10:27am

hi all...so the ex and i haven't exchanged any form of communication in 9 days and haven't seen each other in almost a month. whew. but it's going alright, actually.

here's the kicker - when the ex got a roommate last august, i got to be friends with him (he's gay, so there's no scandalous plotting to hook up with him or anything crazy like that) and we email and IM and stuff. the roommate has heard a lot from me about my ex, probably more than i should have told him, really. but anyway. so the roommate is keeping in touch with me, and i'm not sure i want to keep in touch with him. i like him, but i also really don't want any info on my ex, at all, either good or bad, or even the vaguest of allusions to him about anything. i realize that's my sensitivity to deal with. but, should i tell the roommate this, or just keep the conversations superficial (which is what i've been doing), or something else? i also don't want the roommate feeding info back to the ex, although i haven't been telling roomie anything about what i'm up to, other than general "yeah i'm doing well" stuff. i'm just not interested in any kind of tit-for-tat game, and i don't want to get this poor guy involved in it any more than he already is...considering he's already stuck in the same 1000 sq foot space with my ex for another 5 months, poor thing. lol.

thoughts?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 11:48am
Since you like the guy, do you want to remain friends? If so, be honest with him about not wanting him