A rough night/morning
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A rough night/morning
| Tue, 04-03-2007 - 5:58am |
I'm having a really tough time right now. The man I love broke up with me last week, and my feelings have really run the gamut. Last night and this morning, though, all I can think of is how unfair it is that I hurt so much and he's not hurting at all. He's probably moved on to someone else already, and my life is shattered. That feeling is so strong that it really scares me. He called me Sunday night and we talked for probably 10-15 minutes. Nothing like the 1 or 2 hour conversations we used to have. At the end, he told me to take care of myself. How come he's not hurting? How come I meant so little to him? I need this pain to go away, because this is too much to take now.

hi there
I know how you are feeling. Its as if we are the only ones ever affected by all this. Im sure he isnt going around living his life like nothing has happened, i think men just handle it differently. I feel my ex has hardly noticed im gone, but deep down i know he cares really, but its hard for us to see that at first because we are hurt.
Remember that he has also lost you in all of this and regardless of who ends the relationship there is pain either side. He is upset things havent worked out because he wouldnt be human otherwise. Focus all your energy on yourself, imply NC and things will gradually seem better x
I beleive that what you are saying is not true. I am sure he cares and is hurting.
The same thing happened to me. I love my girl and, at one point, we were both planning our wedding. At some point, she lost her love for me and then broke up with me. I love her so much but it's not enough. I know she is hurting too. She said she wished she still loved me but she doesn't feel any love for me so it's over. It hurts on both sides. I hurt because I love her and she hurts because she doesn't want to hurt me so much but, she cannot stay in a relationship that doesn't make her happy.
Try not to think about it so much and occupy your time with things to do. I know it's hard but it is all you can do. I haven't had contact since Friday and I hope I can last longer. It's tough though. Hang in there.
Rob
Welcome to the board wendymelis,
Just because he's not talking to you or sharing with you how he feels, doesn't mean he's not feeling anything.
Everything happens for a reason
Everything you feel is normal.
Hugs
Everything happens for a reason
Hi
Im sorry you are going through this, this is day 2 of my break up, i didn't even get a good bye :( after 3 1/2 years. I feel the same about my ex, just seems like they have no feelings, and then i also think maybe they are conditioned to pretend they have no feelings and it makes it easier on themselves, men and women will always think about things differently, unfortunately we women seem to think about things too much and overanalyze things.
Just take care of yourself, do things for yourself and take care of you. It takes time for the pain to go away.
hope it gets better for you.