Say What?

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Registered: 12-29-2006
Say What?
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Mon, 10-08-2007 - 11:04pm

Well I am writing this as a guy who just does not get it. I just might be dense about it but I know I am thoroughly confused and have been for the last month. I started talking, then seeing, then dating a woman for all of a whopping month-and-a-half. On the start of everything, I had to be convinced on where things were going. For all intents and purposes, this was just me getting to know her and she getting to know me. Then things escalated a tad. By that I mean we went on one date and hung out at her place once, and she considered us "dating." That didn't scare me or set off any "alarms," it actually made me smile and think maybe there was something to it. Mostly it was how we were together. Sat and talked about anything under the sun, and mostly late into the night (on phone or in person).


Then we went on a very nice date that went longer than both our expectations. Soon after, like a few days later, I get this call about if I wanted to come over to her house that evening. Finally, alarms went off. Felt this was probably time for her to give me the "not interested" speech. Much to my surprise, it was because she had a horrid day at work, went home early, and wanted to be with me: to talk, to vent, and have my company. There were things that she talked about that went beyond the scope of "just venting." Personal issues that most people wouldn't share with others. As I have some very close female friends, this did not feel the same. As if she wanted me to be there because it was me.


Then a week later, on a night we were going to stay in and watch a few movies, her friends were there still from the outing they had gone out to that afternoon. She did apologize, and made mention that is how her life normally is and alluded to tat being a point of contention for some of her former interests. Truthfully, the only thing that bothered me was the SURPRISE and not being made aware of it beforehand. The friends over, not

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: momosdad
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 12:13am

Welcome to the board momosdad,


:If she did like me as much as she claims to, she could make time for me.


EXACTLY!


Re-read your post - all that for a month and a half relationship?