Says he doesn't want to be here

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Registered: 08-26-2005
Says he doesn't want to be here
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 7:42pm

Today my SO told me he doesn't want to be here anymore. Im feeling , i don't know, its like i cant speak or cry or anything.


We have been together for 5 years and just had our 3rd child, i know things haven't been that great between us but i at least suggested counseling. I do love him but i knew things werent good, he chooses his work and friends before his family and is constantly being irresponsible, i've pretty much been supporting him the last 18 months. He emotionaly abuses me and tells me he is not attracted to me since i gained weight and "ruined myself", i had 3 kids in 3 years, i havent had much of a break here. Then he says i make excuses for my weight like being pregnant and tired. My children do not sleep throught the night and i just had a baby in Sep. I do not get any sleep during the night or day, i then have to cook , clean, take care of all the kids on my own because he isn't around but to him me being tired is an excuse not to excersise, comeing from the man that does nothing at all but sleep and eat and go out.


I feel more hurt because im the one if anyone who should have left. I have made it a point to be the best GF i could and all he ever did was drain me and then blame me. Im standing here with 3 kids on my own trying to figure out how to explain to our DD that daddy is not gonna be here anymore.


Im still in shock, what a waste

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Registered: 11-12-2007
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 8:24pm

Hi Alyvia's mommy, I'm sorry for your difficulties. You deserve someone who is going to, at the very least, be a good father and provider to your children. I hope you detox from this man who isn't showing you the love and respect you deserve.


Peaceful wishes blowing you way from here in Pennsylvania.

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Sun, 12-30-2007 - 8:40am

Hi,