scared he'll find someone else

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Registered: 05-07-2006
scared he'll find someone else
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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 1:09pm
I recently made the biggest mistake of my life and told my boyfriend of 7 months that i wanted to end our relationship. I realised that this wasn't what i wanted and we met up to talk. I asked him if we could work things out and he said that he didn't want to because i am moving away for 16 months and we were going to split up anyway (in 5 weeks)
We are both in our 2nd year of uni and next year i have to do a placement abroad in Holland. We live at opposite ends of the country when not at uni so we both agreed to split up, keep in touch, not have a serious relationship with someone else and get back together in the 4th year.
However now i am unsure if he is still going to hold out for me. As i am only going abroad for 10 months, i don't wish to get a boyfriend whilst i'm there but i am scared that he will find someone else in the meantime.
I realise that in time i might not want to get back with him but i t just hurts so much at the moment to think that this could be it forever.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 2:11pm

gnrfan...

Pianoguy thinks the saddest thing about any long-distance separations is the "WHAT IF?"

But the fact remains that your b/f has been honest enough to express his feelings. You both will be "half a world away from each other" before the year 2006 is over!

So why not grow up a little?

Accept the fact that the separation between you might be permanent or it might be TEMPORARY? You can't calculate or predict how many people will enter your life while you're abroad.

So it's really not fair to start 'predicting' what close encounters your former boyfriend may (or may not) experience during the same period of time!

Pianoguy