Scared & Overwhelmed

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Registered: 10-30-2006
Scared & Overwhelmed
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 8:21pm
My boyfriend and I are split up at the moment but he continues to live with me. He and I are one of those relationships where we are much better as friends than as a couple. He has no family in my state and he can't go to any of his friends places because most don't have the room or the ability to help him. He still sleeps in my bed because of his back and he is helping me with my bills. We have tried to work things out but it doesn't help. He is trying to be a better boyfriend but he has done the same stuff before and it only lasts so long. We recently had a huge fight and he told me that he had nothing left to live for and was going to kill himself. I'm afraid that there is some seriousness to it beyond trying to get me to get back with him. I have a child that knows him as dad and has known him like that for over 7 years. I don't want to see anything bad happen to him but I'm not sure I really want to be with him anymore. How do I break-up with him and make sure he "stays safe".
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 10:26pm

It may be time to contact his family out-of-state and let them know what he's threatened to do. You are NOT responsible for his decision to be safe or not safe. That is his choice.

Your first concern needs to be your child's welfare, but do not allow yourself to be manipulated by his words. Encourage him to seek counseling. Consider going yourself to deal with the feelings you are having and head off guilt feelings too.


Carrie