Seeing him set me back

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Registered: 05-24-2006
Seeing him set me back
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Sun, 05-28-2006 - 10:14am

I have only been broken up from my ex for a little more than a week. I met someone right away and though I am not ready to begin dating seriously, I went on a casual date last night. We went to play darts & pool at a neighborhood restaurant. Everything was going great until my ex walked in!! I would have never thought he would be there, since he lives way across town from this place..... Seeing him so soon really set me back. He was there with two couples we used to hang out with, which made it worse. I tried not to look at him but it was killing me. I just wanted to run up to him and hug him because I miss him so much. As they were leaving I overheard him say something about going to Texas and that really hurt because that is where his ex is from that he was messing with while we were together. Ouch.
I am on day 6 of no contact and I am dying to call him..... Help! I cannot get him off my mind this morning.

K

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Sun, 05-28-2006 - 3:39pm

Its funny that I should read this but hey guess what, I just bumped into MY EX. So let me tell you, I wanted to hug him too! I wanted to tell him I missed and I want him back into my life. But here's my wake up call. 1) He wasn't there with me, infact, he was there with a really hot girl 2) He was all weird and distant when we said hello 3) I wished I didn't bump into him 4) If we were really meant to be and really were meant to "work things out" then why the hell am I here at 3 in the morning writing some advice to some girl across the world?? Well, I could feel sorry for myself OR I can do this for you. Imagine the next time you meet him. Imagine it as the sort of worst case scenario like e.g. he with a really hot babe walking hand in hand laughing etc. (use your imagination). THEN think about how you would react. Got it? Then viola! You are going to be ok the next time because if you can imagine how you will react, you are going to be FINE and not feeling "set back" anymore.
By the way, its very normal feeling this way. Imagine it like a zit that would just dissappear in no time.
Good luck babe, your friends are here for you.

WL

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 11:23pm
Exactly, that's the best way to handle it. Don't worry, the longing for him will pass. The more time you spend away from him and not speaking to him, the better you will feel. Not at first of course, but I never thought I would feel better with no contact. Since I haven't spoken to my ex I feel great! I'm going on day 9 of not speaking to him and it feels fantastic. Of course I miss him, but I know it's for the best and I'm moving on, finally.