Seeing Light At The End of The Tunnel

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Registered: 12-27-2007
Seeing Light At The End of The Tunnel
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Sat, 12-29-2007 - 11:38am

Hello Ladies:

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Registered: 01-03-2008
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:04pm
Hey Charleen,
This is my first time on a message board like this, but I officially reached desperation when after being broken up with my ex for over a year I still found myself becoming completely depressed by the way our relationship has evolved (we still hook up whenever we come home from school, he says he still has strong feelings, yet he says he needs to have a serious relationship with someone else before he can recommit to me because he's "not ready to settle down") and so I started searching the internet. I read your post and was reminded of how it felt when I first managed to start getting stronger emotionally after our breakup. I wrote eleven pages on our breakup and my breakup strategies, like you, I made lists of the negatives, I didn't talk to him for five months straight, I took him off buddy lists, took him out of my cell phone, and then summer came and somehow we landed right back where we are right now, in this pseudo relationship where he gets everything he wants without the commitment of a relationship. I'm just writing because your post reminds me that I HAVE those skills, I began learning them over a year ago and I can go back to them and I need to. Step one? No contact starting on sunday when I head back to school for next semester. Not sure why I'm telling you this, but I guess I just needed to get it out. Anyways, thank you for your message, you reminded me that I got past this once, even if it wasn't completely, and maybe this time I can get past it for good.