This Seems to be Getting Ugly
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| Wed, 11-10-2004 - 2:34am |
I'm really trying to avoid no contact, but it's tough. Lately, though, I admit the guy has grown stupider and stupider in his posts, and has even started indirectly talking about me there where he said it's a shame people stop talking to each other when things go wrong. Things didn't go wrong in my eyes...he did something wrong and I just have no interest in being with him in any way ever now.
Well, you've seen my posts about him. I feel we have nothing in common any more, I feel like I am a better person not being with this guy, and hell, if he is callous enough to break up with me on line, there is no need for me to have him in my life anymore. I no longer trust the guy, and if he was right in saying he wasn't himself when he was dating me, and now he is acting like himself on that board, then damn...I really want nothing to do with the immature loser.
Anyways, I have been trying to calmly ignore him, and live my life without him. He even thinks that by being indirect, passive-aggressive and laying guilt trips, I will want him back as my friend? No!
But now I am getting angrier. He is dragging personal shtuff up on the board...starting to anyways, and is really ticking off a good friend of mine, whom I think wants me to jump in and tell him to shut the eff up. But she hasn't directly said as much and I believe she could handle herself. It's not like I am sending in minions to torture him, but my friends have made up their own minds about him, I have been honest about my feelings on what happened, and they've decided he's not much to write home about. But I am not encouraging them to say anything to him.
I think the lesson in all of this is don't date a guy who is much younger than you. Well, if you're in your 20s anyways.

My suggestion? You and your friend stop going to the message board. Simple. Then he cannot harass either of you.
I know you probably like going to the message board and there are probably friends there as well, but the only way to fuel his fire is by both you and your friend continuing to listen to him and allowing him to get to you! He knows it is bothering you and pissing you off, so just let it go.
Give it a month or two and then go back to the message board and see if he is still there!
Good luck!
I told him to tell me where to send the things he left behind for me, and if I don't hear from him like tomorrow, they're getting binned as well.