Seen my EX, but didn't fall apart . . .

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Registered: 04-28-2006
Seen my EX, but didn't fall apart . . .
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 10:55am

Well, I seen my ex on the 4th of July holiday at a family gathering, (mostly his). I got there late, after dark, cause I didn't want to run in to him and his woman. Well, he was not with her. I got there and everybody was so glad to see me. I got hugs and such a warm greeting from everyone. After I got closer to the crowd, I notice him sitting there staring at me. He spoke, I just looked and turned away and started talking to someone else. I felt so nervous. I just acted as though he was invisible. The nervousness went away. I caught him staring a few times.

Well, after talking to several people, who came up to me probably just to tell me the news, that he and this new girl were already having major problems. Well, I was just shocked. Apparently, he had been talking about it quite a bit at the party for so many people to know.

Well, as the evening went on, I notice he was talking to one of my good friends (mother figure), and seem to be pouring out his guts. On our way home, she told me he was complaining about how unhappy he was with this person, she was broke, she wasn't in his corner, etc. Well, I was shocked, because just a month ago, he was announcing he was going to marry this girl. Now, he is saying he's done. My friend told me that she was shocked that he came to her to spill his guts, guess he just wanted everything to get back to me in some way. This still has not made me call at all.

The one thing I heard was that he told someone that the reason we couldn't have a relationship was because he likes little biddy women. Well, I heard this girl was very thin, size 3, tall, no breast, no butt (pencil). I am a size 14,voluptuous, sexy, attractive, good cook (he always loved my cooking). I am very shapely, (which he always told me), dress nice, sex was great, etc. He never had a problem with this over the three years we were together, if he did, he never said anything to me. I have had several family members, including all his brothers, to hit on me when they knew we were having problems, telling me how sexy I was. I never crossed the line. I still am working on getting down to my size 10-12. I am walking and working out. I have never wanted to be a pencil size person. Well, this comment about my size TOTALLY CRUSHED MY HEART!!!!