Sept. 16 to now..what worked...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sept. 16 to now..what worked...
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Fri, 10-28-2005 - 5:18pm

Hi gang,

It's been since Sept. 16th since my May Dec, LD man of 3+ years and I split. It was done on the phone and I then had 3 weeks of misery. My attempts at NC was largely unsuccessful. The week of Oct. 7 I saw him and we had sex and many tears, laughs and debates. Then he left again. And since I have had NC. I have read It's Called A Break Up Because It Is Broken, and Mars and Venus Starting Over. I am praying and meditating and doing LOTS of work with a great counselor. Today is the 28th and the pain has subsided. I feel some hope and joy. I feel a weight lifted and I am optimistic. I also realize that he made this choice to end it and start something new and while it hurts, it was for the best. We will be friends someday perhaps in a few months. I love him and miss him a little.

I am here to tell you the pain eases and with a lot of work peace can return and joy as well..

HUGS to all of you..some days are easier than others..but..

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 6:48pm
thats good to know. I broke up with my bf on September 18 and we have seen other on more occasions then not. We have "made love" (he had sex) three times and I tried the NC this week. It did not work out as he lives across the hall and knocked on my door on Tuesday. He does not want to get back together however he wants to be "friends." I am going out either tonight or tomorrow to get "It called break up because it is broke". This morning I told him to have a good life as I am not the friend he wants me to be, I am his ex girlfriend who loves him and wants him back and it is not healthy for me to continue to see him. I have left it at that and hopefully will stick to the NC. If he comes to my door, i will ask without inviting him in what he wants. If he says to hang out, i will tell him to call one of his true friends. Err . Why are men so confusing?